Tibits For Thoughts

"The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers,
not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,
  to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands,
that the word of God may not be blasphemed."
Titus 2:3-5

  
 I don't have a husband to love, but I can save my love for him by guarding my thoughts and only thinking what is:

" ...true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, ... Virtu(ous and),... Praiseworthy.." about any fella I meet. No, I don't have children to love unconditionally, but I can learn how to love by practicing it with * 'unlovable' siblings. Discreet? I can practice that! Chaste? Uh huh! Homemaker? (does scrubbing toilets count?) Even if I don't want to... I can. Good?... Isn't that what the Christian life is about? Serving God as He conforms us to the image of His Son? Obedient? I may not have a husband, but I sure can practice before I meet 'im! 

Another thought:

~Discreet
"curbing ones desires and impulses, self-controlled, moderate."

~Chaste
"exciting reverence, venerable, honorable, sacred, pure from carnality, modest." 
~Good
"useful, salutary, good, pleasant, agreeable, joyful, happy, excellent, distinguished, upright, honorable."
God has His own good time for your husband and my husband. How could He bless us with a husband to serve if we are not serving Him ? God says 'when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing.' How can God give a husband one of us, if we are not 'a good thing' ?


One last thought:
Is our focus in the right place? As women, we are created to be a helper for man, and we have an innate need and desire to do just that. The desire is a good thing. It is a gift from God. But when we put as the #1 our desire to be married (and to be loved as the idol of a man's heart? ... and to be served... and thought of first...and... ... ... to be worshiped? (adored?)) we pull our idea of marriage out of our pockets and shove it at God saying, "what you think is best really isn't." (That makes God a liar.) "I know you are holding out on me." (That makes God malicious.) "This is the blessing I want. Give it to me." (That makes puts you in the place of the All Knowing God as god.)
 Do you see how we mock Him?
 Do you see the need for a little more trust and faith?
"James 1:5, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men liberally, and reproaches not; and it shall be given him."

"Romans 12:2, and do not be conformed to this world, ( we must beware of the lust of the flesh girls) but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God."
But!!!
Whaaat is 'transforming' our minds?
simply put, it is putting into our minds God's thoughts, and kicking out our old-sin-nature thoughts.
"As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he." Proverbs 23:7
What we think is the 'real us.' It dictates how we act and what comes out of our mouths. The dirt inside our minds cripples our faith.
So what should we think? 
True Things...

God is capable of doing anything.
God is working all things out for my ultimate good.
God's timing is perfect.
God has me here in this season of life for a reason.

 








*To be honest there is no such thing as an 'unlovable sibling.' we just use that as an excuse to let ourselves off the hook.